You Can’t Always Fix Conflict

According to Psychologist Dan Wile, “When choosing a long-term partner… you will inevitably be choosing a particular set of unresolvable problems.”

Having conflict that cannot be fixed does not mean that your relationship is set up to fail. Every single couple is faced with differences that are completely unresolvable.

Your job is to figure out if you want to cope with these problems.

Your job is to figure out if your needs and wants can be met in a relationship with these particular unresolvable problems.

Your job is to acknowledge these unresolvable problems with your partner and then develop strategies to cope with conflict when it appears.